If you and your spouse are not getting along very well at times, consider these facts for a moment:
- Half of marriages in the United States will end in divorce (1997).
- Divorce is higher when a marriage is preceded by a premarital pregnancy or out-of-wedlock birth
- Divorce goes down during economic hardship for a couple
- Couples who live together prior to marriage experience greater dissatisfaction afterwards
- Due to early divorce and the decreased likelihood today of staying married “for the sake of the children,” younger children are more and more likely to be affected.
- 50% of all children from divorced families are more likely to have difficulties
- Children may also be very damaged by their parent’s bad marriage; their school work may suffer, as well as self-esteem, increased anger, depression, and self-blame, conflicts with authority, and their own ability to have a good marriage (role modeling and family systems)
- About 38% of all couples divorce within four years of marriage; this probably represents for many a breakdown in the marriage and separation within the first two years.
- A Dallas divorce lawyer has said that five years after a divorce many clients have told him, “If I’d only known how hard divorce is, I would have tried harder the first time.”
- Divorce is likely to be followed by remarriage (5 of 6 men remarry within 1-3 years; 3 out of 4 divorced women remarry; women stay single 5 years or more before remarriage; many decide they won’t marry again), but unless the issues of the previous marriage are dealt with problems will continue.
Facts about Children of Divorce
- Children with divorced parents are more likely to exhibit signs of early disengagement from school than children from intact families.
- One possible reason for lower academic achievement is a diminution in income in the custodial parent’s household. For example, income differences account for between 30 and 50 percent of the overall difference in high school graduation rates among children from two parent and single parent households.
- Children who move frequently do not receive specialized educational services, nor do they receive the individual attention they may need from teachers in order to identify gaps in their knowledge.
- The psychological effect of divorce on children fades within three years but academic performance continues to decline.
- Children from divorced families have a high risk of becoming divorced.